Darci Kistler, on Balanchine and giving:

"He loved it when you could go beyond yourself and work to the point of losing yourself... I think he realized that real giving has nothing to do with yourself. So you were useful to him if you could lose yourself, also.

You would give more, and you do more, when you're not thinking of yourself. You're not inhibited, you're not protecting anything. You're not really asking for anything either."