Guardrails
Your conscious should light up when:

1. it dawns on you that your core group isn't moving in the direction you want your life to be moving

2. you catch yourself pretending to be someone other than who you really are

3. you feel pressure to compromise

4. you hear yourself say "i'll go, but i won't participate"

5. you hope the people you care about most don't find out where you've been or who you've been with